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It seems as though part of life is learning lessons the hard way. For me personally, I have learned lessons the hardest way possible. Repeatedly.

My parents never taught me anything valuable. Honestly, I’m surprised they managed to keep me alive. Growing up as I expressed my dreams and ambitions I was always told “Thats too hard” or “You don’t want to do that, it’s a lot of work.” I was never pressed to go to college, pursue any ambitions or do anything for that matter.

My father feared the world and hid in a Budweiser bottle. My mother did her best but was of little help in pointing me towards designing a life. Go to work and get a job with benefits, was all I was told.

Growing up and moving on with life you begin to look to others for helpful advice in reaching goals or ambitions. However, this can be a disastrous method. I learned that the hard way. Over the past several years I have developed a set of rules I live by to help maintain my sanity as well as keep me on course in life. Here are some of my top rules.

5. Don’t take advice from someone who isn’t where you want to be in life.

Want to be a chef? Don’t take advice on how to do it from the grill cook at the pizza shop. Be a real estate millionaire? Don’t take advice from a relative who lives in an apartment. Find people who are doing exactly what you want to do and seek them out. There are loads of people out there who can give all kinds of advice on how to do or achieve something, but never have accomplished anything themselves. Avoid these people like the plague. Success leaves tracks, follow them.

4. Don’t Gossip

Pretty simple. Don’t say something about someone you wouldn’t say to there face. This can be difficult because it’s in our nature to gossip. If people confide in you. Keep it to yourself. You are much more valuable to someone as a confidant then a gossip. My motto, “I don’t know anything, and even if I do know something, I don’t know anything.”

3. I Don’t Take Shit

I’m 38 years old, I don’t take shit from anyone. And by shit I mean don’t guilt me into doing something, try to manipulate me or lie to me. My bullshit meter is pretty spot on these days.

2. I Will Cut You

I have never actually cut someone with a knife or a weapon, but if you are a drain on my existence, a liar, or anyone who distracts me from my goals, or means to be an asshole, I will cut you out of my life immediately. I don’t have time for bullshit.

1. I Am A Sarcastic Asshole

This is who I am. It means one of two things, I’m comfortable enough with you to be that way, or I don’t like you. It’s up to you to figure out which one.

Rules. They provide guidance in life. These rules have helped me stay focused. Do I break my rules? I try not too. However rule 1 nevet gets broken. Thanks for reading and please share!

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One of the many painful lessons I learned in life is you need someone to guide you to your goals. It is impossible to succeed in in any endeavor by yourself. You need someone to assist you.

As a kid we idolize many people, celebrities, parents, athletes and even adopt some of their characteristics. However along the road of life sometimes we lose this trait and “grow up”.

Of course we idolize our parents, but sometimes, their lack of information, can be of no service to us in adulthood. My father always told me to graduate high school and get a good job with benefits. That was his life model. He knew no better. The desire to conquer the world wasn't a concern for him. Complacency and dependence on alcohol were his driving motivators.

So, I did as my father said, found that great job with benefits. Within a year I was left with a feeling of “now what?” Is this what you do for life? Work the same job for 45 years and retire? Screw that.

 

I craved more out of life. It became a fire that consumed me, I decided life would be more than a 45 year job with hopes I can retire and survive until I die. Over the next several years I looked for people who were doing the things in life I wanted to do, people who achieved great things and making the world a better place. I began a relentless search of people who lived a life I wanted.

One of the first books I read was by Robert Kiyosaki. Rich Dad Poor Dad. It changed my life. Even though I have never met Robert. He was a mentor. I learned something from him.

 

Napoleon Hill was another mentor in the early years I never met, but his philosophy greatly shaped the direction of my life. His book Think And Grow Rich is not only about financial riches, but riches on an emotional level.

Fast forward several years later and there have been dozens of other people who are mentors to me. Tony Horton, Arnold Schwarzenegger and Rich Froning are just a few people who have helped me tremendously.

 

It may be crazy, but when I discover someone who interests me, I become consumed with them. Their journey to success, their mindset and their philosophy of life. It all feeds my mentality, it helps me to adopt ideas or characteristics to help propel me towards my ultimate goals in life.

 

Mentors are important. People to help spark you creativity, give you that one idea that changes the course of your life. They can be living or dead, authors, athletes, parents, teachers. Anyone you find amazing and interesting, learn about them, find something that can improve your life. Be inspired by them.

 

Here I am meeting Tony Horton.

 

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