Posts Tagged ‘anger’


I’ve read  many books over the years to help me be more motivated, better salesman, be successful, change my mindset and a host of other personal development lessons.  A lot of those books did a great job.  They helped me figure things out in life, and I thought they changed my life, but not like this book I discovered.

For years I have suffered with tremendous back pain.  I was diagnosed by several top back doctors as having  ruptured L4 and L5 discs in my spine.  They told me I would live for the rest of my life  with pain and discomfort.  And so I did.  For the past several years I’ve been injected with so many shots in my spine to deal with pain, I’ve lost count. None of them provided the relief I needed. I suffered through every day with discomfort, most days pain.  It altered my life in a negative way for almost 10 years.

I couldn’t lift weights the way I wanted, everything I did I had to be careful not to hurt my back.  Sitting, sneezing, petting the dog, moving the wrong way in bed could all trigger intense spasms and a trip to my pain management doctor for a series of shots.  It was horrible.

One day I was turned on to a book by Dr. John E. Sarno named ” The Mind Body Prescription, Healing The Body, Healing The Pain”


This book, of all the books I’ve ever read about the improvement of ones self, is the one that changed my life.  There are lots of books about how the mind affects the body.  There is no doubt that a huge mind-body connection exists.

I suffer with tremendous anger.  Loads of it.  I never really focused on WHY I am so angry.  I had some ideas, but after reading this book, I know exactly where the anger stems from.

This anger, is harbored inside my mind.  I cannot express my anger towards the cause.  Thus, it is repressed inside my body and expressed through back pain.  I read this book cover to cover in less than 3 days.  Five days after completion of the book  I have zero back pain or discomfort.  ZERO.

Six months later I can deadlift again, row 2,000 meters, and lift weights and work my core with no thoughts of having to be careful of my back.  No pain, no issues, nothing.  Cured.  I can’t believe it myself.  After all these years of pain.  I wish I discovered this book sooner.

This book changed my life.  If you read it, and apply what it says about the cause of your pain, it will make sense.  I can’t recommend this book enough to anyone who suffers from back pain with no relief in site.

Buy it, read it, apply it.  Thanks for reading and share this post with anyone you know who suffers from back pain.

There was a time in my life when I was angry. I mean really angry. Anything and everything would set me off. Especially technology. I was never violent towards family or people, however, in my anger I destroyed a lot of things.


Eventually I realized I had a real problem. Books, talks on CD, meditation, I tried them all. Nothing helped. I destroyed laptops, chairs, so many walls that I've become an expert with sparkle and wall patches. I even destroyed a DVD player by tossing it out a window, running over it and finished it off with an axe. Don't get me started on play station controllers.


So, one day after yet another rage filled outburst I went to see a shrink. 2 sessions in and I discovered the cure, as well as the cause. My anger was the result of guilt that I had bottled up inside, frustration with my circumstances in life and a few other mental hang ups that I will reserve for a future post. Recognizing these issues didn't cure my anger, but they did help me realize I could control a lot more things in my life that added ingredients to my rage.


What was the key to helping me conquer my raging outbursts? The shrink said, “Think about how other people see you when you carry on like this.” And then it clicked. I had spent my childhood watching my father flip shit over dumb stuff all the time. I then realized how stupid my rage was and resolved to get it under control.


Now I'm not perfect, and once in a while I lose my cool, but I quickly regain control and squash my rage monster before he reveals his ugly head. Believe me, it hasn't been easy, but the thought of my daughter seeing me act like a lunatic over stupid crap isn't healthy. Most of my anger outbursts reside in my car, on the road, with horrible drivers. Nobody can hear those outbursts, since I'm usually on my own, and it has become a therapy for me.


We all have anger for different reasons, in my case it was my own stupidity. It all boiled down to being mad at me for failing myself. I had no goals, I was fat, lost and unhappy. I knew I didn't want to be that way, but I couldn't figure out how not to be. It's been a long road, and I have learned many, many lessons the hardest way possible. It even seems like I've learned the same lesson the hard way more than once. But I created goals and started knocking them out, all the things I was angry about began to melt away.


Find a reason to not be angry. Build on that.

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