2 Simple Things to Make Life Better

Lately I have had to really focus on making my mind less hectic.  I have a doctorate in procrastination and found I need to write things down in order to get some things done.  I have also discovered that I still put off doing things on my list sometimes.  Well, a lot of the time.

A to do list is a great tool to get you started, but I found that scheduling things in my calendar was a huge step in getting more important things done.  Your phone comes equipped with a calendar, use it.  Once I started scheduling my time at the gym, time to work on my business, my meditation practice and other important matters in life, I became much more efficient with my time.  Time is the one commodity we can not acquire more.  Be stingy with your time.  Everything I do is scheduled on a calendar. This is a tough habit to stick with, but when you commit 30 days to the process, you will be surprised about how much more efficient you become.

Meditation is the second practice I have started that was so difficult in the beginning, but is an important part of my daily routine. How do you start meditating?  Youtube has great beginner videos that will walk you through, 10, 15 or 30 minute sessions.   Just push play and follow the instructions.  I highly recommend starting off in the 5-10 minute range.  Spotify is another great resource for meditation.  Just start.  set aside 10 minutes a day where you won’t be disturbed.  Meditation benefits include reduced stress, improved concentration, information processing, fosters creativity an a host of other amazing things.

 

With great change comes great patience.  Try these practices in your life for the next 30 days and I guarantee you will see dramatic improvements in you life.  So many people I talk to live unfulfilled lives.  They are over 40, and feel like the American dream is really not a dream at all.  We are at a point were we realize this ride is at best half way over.  Perspectives and things change dramatically as life chugs along.  Thank you for joining me as I document my journey to build a newline after 40.

 

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How I Conquered My Raging Anger Problem (almost)

There was a time in my life when I was angry. I mean really angry. Anything and everything would set me off. Especially technology. I was never violent towards family or people, however, in my anger I destroyed a lot of things.

 

Eventually I realized I had a real problem. Books, talks on CD, meditation, I tried them all. Nothing helped. I destroyed laptops, chairs, so many walls that I've become an expert with sparkle and wall patches. I even destroyed a DVD player by tossing it out a window, running over it and finished it off with an axe. Don't get me started on play station controllers.

 

So, one day after yet another rage filled outburst I went to see a shrink. 2 sessions in and I discovered the cure, as well as the cause. My anger was the result of guilt that I had bottled up inside, frustration with my circumstances in life and a few other mental hang ups that I will reserve for a future post. Recognizing these issues didn't cure my anger, but they did help me realize I could control a lot more things in my life that added ingredients to my rage.

 

What was the key to helping me conquer my raging outbursts? The shrink said, “Think about how other people see you when you carry on like this.” And then it clicked. I had spent my childhood watching my father flip shit over dumb stuff all the time. I then realized how stupid my rage was and resolved to get it under control.

 

Now I'm not perfect, and once in a while I lose my cool, but I quickly regain control and squash my rage monster before he reveals his ugly head. Believe me, it hasn't been easy, but the thought of my daughter seeing me act like a lunatic over stupid crap isn't healthy. Most of my anger outbursts reside in my car, on the road, with horrible drivers. Nobody can hear those outbursts, since I'm usually on my own, and it has become a therapy for me.

 

We all have anger for different reasons, in my case it was my own stupidity. It all boiled down to being mad at me for failing myself. I had no goals, I was fat, lost and unhappy. I knew I didn't want to be that way, but I couldn't figure out how not to be. It's been a long road, and I have learned many, many lessons the hardest way possible. It even seems like I've learned the same lesson the hard way more than once. But I created goals and started knocking them out, all the things I was angry about began to melt away.

 

Find a reason to not be angry. Build on that.

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